The Dude Therapist

In this episode, Eli Weinstein interviews Chiemi, a leading expert in infertility and IVF. They discuss the misconceptions and assumptions surrounding infertility, the ongoing emotional and physical toll of the journey, and the importance of compassion and support. They also explore the dynamics of support within couples, the need for active listening and validation, and the challenge of balancing grief and joy. Chiemi emphasizes the importance of honoring one's experience and creating spaces for vitality and self-care. They also discuss the lack of recognition and ritual around the grief of infertility.

Key Ideas:

• Infertility and IVF are often misunderstood, and there are many misconceptions and assumptions surrounding these experiences.
• The emotional and physical toll of infertility and IVF is significant, and it is important to acknowledge and validate the grief and trauma that individuals and couples go through.
• Support within couples is crucial, and it is important to listen to and validate each other's experiences actively.
• Balancing grief and joy can be challenging, but it is possible to hold space for both emotions and allow oneself to experience happiness alongside the pain.
• Creating spaces for self-care, vitality, and emotional well-being is essential during the infertility journey.

• The grief of infertility is often unrecognized and lacks the rituals and support that are typically associated with other forms of loss.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Discussion of Misconceptions about Infertility

03:24 The Unrecognized Grief of Infertility

08:55 The Importance of Conversations about Loss and Fertility

15:01 Supporting Each Other in the Infertility Journey

19:12 Navigating Fear and Avoiding Turning Against Each Other

28:24 Creating a Warm and Loving Space in the World of Infertility

30:38 Letting Joy In and Balancing Grief and Happiness

34:02 Shifting the Mindset from Guilt to Acceptance

37:25 Recognizing and Honoring the Grief of Infertility

38:53 Conclusion and Appreciation for the Work of Supporting Infertility

Bio:

Chiemi aka Miss.Conception Coach is a published writer and Infertility Trauma + Grief Support Specialist. She lends her unique voice and expertise to help people better understand, validate, and process their infertility journey. She uses her platform to raise awareness about the emotions felt and the reality of the mental health issues people experience. Through her unique counseling style, she helps people understand, and heal from their experiences. She offers worldwide individual and couples teletherapy. Connect with Chiemi on Instagram and visit her website to learn more.